Friends

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So I have been thinking recently, are friends that important. I mean, yeah, of course they’re important but how important?

I don’t have the best of luck with friends. We fall out, we fight and somehow, it always seems to be my fault. I don’t always know what it is I do but I do know that I need to change.

Friends mean a lot to everyone. There are always some friends that will stay with you through your whole life and some friends just drift apart. And sometimes, I feel incredibly let out from other people because I don’t have that one stable “best” friend. I have friends and I have close friends and I have my family but what about that one friendship that everyone is supposed to have and everyone is supposed to keep.

I watch a lot of YouTube, and I mean a lot, and I see all of these YouTuber’s with such great friendships and I feel quite envious and jealous. I just want that friendship. I want that one friendship that will be consistent through my entire life; who I can share things with and grow older with.

But are friendships that important, I really don’t have the answer. What do you guys think? Write what you think in the comments and see if we can help each other through problems.

Lots of love,

MrsSugg xxx

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Rumours

51h3Lf+caiL During most people’s school years, they will experience rumours. One person says something and before you know it, it’s one giant game of ‘Chinese whispers”. it goes around a wide majority of people and places. Sometimes it’s stupid little things that people can ignore but other times it’s something it is the complete opposite. This can have a massive impact on people’s everyday lives. But do we actually know what rumours are?

The Oxford Dictionary definition of a rumour is: “a currently circulating story or report of uncertain or doubtful truth”. Uncertain or doubtful. That is the important part. If you don’t know if something that you have been told is actually right, then why pass it on.

Some people class starting a rumour as a form of bullying. This is because some rumours are created and manipulated with the intention to harm. People manipulate stories or create stories to get what they want out of someone.

However, rumours can also b a good thing. This can be shown through one particular band from the 1970s. Fleetwood Mac released an album in early 1977 entitled “Rumours”. This album was written and recorded whilst the band were struggling with relationship breakups and other interpersonal strife between band members. This caused a lot of unrestrained behaviour between the members. It also helped them though to create songs that were written from the heart. All of this went on to create an album that would later win: the Grammy award for Album of the Year in 1978, Diamond certificates in several countries including the USA, Canada and Australia, as well as Platinum and Gold certifications. It also sold over 40 million copies worldwide. Fleetwood Mac made the best out of a bad situation and it granted them an opportunity that nothing else could buy.

So next time there is a rumour going round about you or someone you know, do the right thing and use it to your advantage.

Lots of love,

MrsSugg xxx

The lows in life

cheer-up-day-enjoy-everyday-good-good-day-Favim.com-38229 Hey guys, So today is a bit of a random post. I’ve just been going through some stuff that I thought you guys might find quite relatable.

I’ve had a bit of a rough time of it lately. I’ve lost many friends whilst also finding friends that I didn’t know were there or just didn’t realise I had. I’ve been struggling to keep up to date with all of my final GCSE exams and do all my work at home too. Overall, I’ve had a pretty stressful time.

I haven’t been dealing with this well at all and I have been the lowest mentally that I have ever been. I have been upset most days and even the smallest things will upset me. I’ve also been having a lot more panic attacks recently. This has caused me to be a lot more stressed out and generally unhappy.

I realise now that I have taken a lot of my frustration out on the people trying to help me. Truth is, I’m scared of hurting other people because of my problems but I’m also scared of being alone. I’m scared of what the next thing to go wrong in my life is going to be and I’m scared of when it will happen.

Truth is, I shouldn’t be scared. If my friends truly care about me then they will be there for me no matter what but if they don’t then, well, I’ve realised what I need to change in my life. I need to start trying to find the ups in my life.

I’m a bit of a “wallower” when it comes to problems. I tend to hold onto what has upset me for ages and ages. I find it hard to forget things that have hurt me. I wallow in my problems and that’s what tends to keep me down.

So my challenge to myself (and to you if this applies to you) is to find those “ups” in life. Find what it is that makes you happy and follow that. Never ever let yourself get don because of someone else because, trust me, that is one of the hardest things to get back out of. BE yourself and do whatever makes you happy no matter what anyone else thinks.

Lots of love and helpful hugs,

MrsSugg xxx

Changes

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In life, people change, things change and we in ourselves change. We can’t control what happens in our lives, its not up to us. But what is up to us is whether we accept that changes are happening or we deny it. I have a lot going on in my life all the time and I find it very hard to accept. I feel disconnected from my family. I feel left out from my friends. I feel just incredibly alone as a whole. And I have found this very hard to deal with.

At the start of the new year, I decided that I was going to be more healthy and do more exercise. But as the year has gone on, I just haven’t had the time to do it. And this is something I am really regretting. I want to be able to do more exercise and just be more healthy. I just don’t have the time.

I was sitting reading “Love Tanya” by Tanya Burr when I could see what a great life she led. What a great life she aimed for. And I realised that’s what I want. So my challenge to myself now is to do all I can to live my life the way that I want. Not the way anyone else wants me to live it.

Being a Christian, I have daily Bible readings with a book that tells me how I can apply this to everyday modern day life. It said something that I just haven’t been able to get out of my head. It said ‘Don’t try to finish the picture when God has only drawn your outline’. I believe strongly that each and every one of us has a plan in life and God is the only person that knows it for He planned it for us. We can’t see whats going to happen until it does.

So, start living your life your way. Because its our life, not anyone else’s.

MrsSugg xxx

Getting Let Down

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In life, people will let you down. Even the people you thought were your closest friends. Anyone can let you down and a vast majority of people will let you down. There’s nothing you or anyone else can do to change that. Even you will let someone down at some stage in your life. Whether it’s today, tomorrow, next week or maybe even next year, I guarantee you will let someone down.

So why do we let people down. We don’t mean to. Hell. Sometimes we don’t even realise we’re letting people down. The only thing we can do is hope that were not. If you do you can’t change what you’ve done but you can change the outcome. You can leave things to get worse and worse by not owning up to your mistakes or you can make them better by facing them and learning from them.

I can’t tell you that it won’t hurt if people let you down. That would be a lie. I mean, it would be awesome if getting hurt didn’t cause pain but it does so we have to deal with it. But the best way that you can get past a pain like this is simple. Forgive the person for their mistakes and learn from their mistakes. You’ll be surprised what a difference it can make in your life. It may even bring you closer as friends or in some situations more than friends.

So basically, what I’m saying is that I want you to find the good in situations. It may take some digging but it’s there somewhere.

MrsSugg xxx